A few weeks ago, after sharing the news of my new calling with my internet-savvy sister, Emily, she forwarded a few links to blogs that contained Young Women ideas. It was a helpful gesture, of course, and those blogs do, indeed, contain many fun and wonderful looking activities.
They also completely paralyzed me with their freakishly perfect authors. I've been blogging for four and a half years now, and I'm well aware of the concept of spin. Blog material tends to rely heavily on the good stuff going on and for good reason too! It's a nice counter balance to all the gloom and doom the media presents as the reality of life. But when you don't know a person, and they have dizzying talents displayed on their blog, it's easy to fall victim to the they-are-better-than-me comparison.
This very thing happened to me and I just haven't felt up to casting my not quite as spectacular pearls before blogland. It seems to me that blogs have transitioned from their humble beginnings of social voyeurism to springboards of talent discovery. The world is filled with unbelievably talented people and I've watched people with a eye for photography launch their photography careers through their blogs. People who bake or cook discover there is an audience for their methods and recipes. The list goes on and on. Jewelry design. Interior decorating. Clip-Art. Scrapbooking. Quilting. Knitting. Furniture making. Etc., Etc., Etc. Many have multiple talents such as this Young Women's idea blog whose author not only shared her ideas for successful programs and activities but was also an amazing photographer (with her own watermark design to identify each photo as hers), dessert designer, visiting teaching hand-out maker, Halloween craft idea supplier, and cleaner extraordinaire.
It's not like I feel like I'm talent-less. I have talents. I can sing. I'm pretty good with a book in my hands. I'm an excellent floater. But I can't present a tutorial filled with professional how-to sequential photos, or open an etsy shop with any of them (although if anyone can figure out how I can turn my extreme buoyancy into cash, I'm all ears) and that seems to be the point of writing a blog these days.
While driving around in my I'm-not-worthy-to-blog state last week, I frequently drove past a stinky road-killed skunk. There are lots and lots of skunks in my area and they make the worst roadkill. It's not just the usual gore and guts to gross me out but the mile before and after of stench that I have to endure for at least a week At one point, I thought, "Even though it is stinky and less obvious with its purpose, a skunk must serve an essential role in the circle of life." And feeling a certain kinship with an animal possessing what I hypothesized were less glamorous talents, but talents nonetheless, I set off to discover what those talents were.
Turns out, a skunk is pretty much just a stinky, rabies carrying, food scavenging rodent. There isn't much that it does to endear it to the rest of mankind. It does eat black widow spiders, scorpions and other even less desirable rodents, but that's about all it has lined up in its pros column.
The surprising twist to the parable is that my discovery about the skunk did lift me out of my blogging funk. Because I am not a skunk. I am a human being and considerably more talented. I don't carry rabies. I do not possess malodorous anal glands. And while I many not reduce the black widow or scorpion population by eating them, I can certainly buy something or pay someone to kill them.
Plus....I can float. Really, really well.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
The Parable of the Skunk
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14 comments:
Oh how I love you! And I have witnessed your amazing floating techniques :)
Lucy , i have noticed the same thing in blog land.. My blog is still the same, A place for me to vent, post about my life, vent , post pictures of my children, vent and more venting...
You are such a talented writer! I love reading your blog. Sure, you're not "selling" anything, but you're writing, and that's a better reason to blog, in my opinion. You have something to say and you say it well.
"I do not possess malodorous anal glands" may become my new bad-day mantra.
You're brilliant.
Oh ho, the floating Lucy is back. I was sad when you went silent. Please don't compare yourself to anyone...no one wins that way...especially me because then you don't write.
Hang tough Lucy. We're all in this together, doing our best to be our best.
I SOOOOO get this. SOOOO! I tend to compare myself to bloggers who sort-of blog like me...you know, the slice-of-life, jack-of-all-trades-master-of-none thing. Some are much, much much more successful than me and I sometimes think: WHY??? Then I chalk it up to my general middle-of-the-pack-in-everything-I-do status and let the self-hatred fester for awhile. Then I eventually remember why I started to blog anyway, and how weird it would be if really, LOTS of people read me—Oh the pressure! and then some of my bashing receeds. But only some.
See??? I get it!
But what I wanted to say is: NO! You are not a skunk! I always love reading what you have to say because (duhn duhn duhn): You tend to draw conclusions. I like that in a blog!
I'd much rather hang out at your blog than a cookie cutter perfection blog, and I think floating with you would be kind of awesome too!
I love you, Lucy. You are anything but a stinky anal-glanded person (which you already know)(but also which was hilarious.) I can relate so so much to this post. I think often of my blog and while I had hopes when I began that people would find me and love me and whenever I cyber sneezed there were thousands of comments to bless me, I've come to be okay with my obscure-ness. I am not super talented. I don't take awesome pictures. I don't have a "theme" that brings back readers again and again. But, in real life I'm not the most popular girl in the room, either. I'm choosy in real life and I'm choosey cyberetically (is that a word). I guess my blog reflects who I am.
So I echo Amy. I love your conclusions. I love your blog. I love your books. I love your talent of shining light on others and making them love you all the more.
Oh, thank you for this post! I still cant figure out how to design my template, or make dinner for that matter. There are some days when I feel so blog-ferior and I sink lower and lower with every blog I read. I know quite a few amazing people who can't read blogs all together because of the blow it gives to their self-esteem. You are an amazing writer and stringing together words and images in the way that you do is pure priceless art.
You are definitely not a skunk....and look at you teaching in parables. :)
I love your blog and I keep coming back for more "Lucy". I love your unique take on things and I would seriously be crushed for life if I couldn't read your book reviews. So keep letting that Lucy light shine!!
While on the one hand, I can see how blogs can make us feel less. Less beautiful. Less fashion savvy. Less talented. Less capable.
On the other hand, I find blogs totally inspiring especially when I find one written by someone who is quite talented whether it be in writing, domesticity, photography, or whatever. I want to figure out how they do it. I seek out ideas that I can implement in my own life. Consequently, my Google Reader is near to overflowing and I keep adding more.
P.S. Can I have the address of that blog?
Lucy, the beauty of your blog is the way you don't try to hide your flaws. You don't show only your super-talented, super-successful side (and you do have one). You consider the possibility that you might be a skunk, figure out that you're not, and share the process with the rest of us.
And that's why we read your blog. Not because you are perfect, but because you are real. Insightful. Honest. And very, very good at writing about it.
P.S. Skunk roadkill is nastay, and just reading your post brought the scent to mind.
P.P.S. Thanks for the book recommendation on my latest blog whine; I'm putting it on hold at the library. I need all the help I can get!
I'm truly in awe of your floating talents! I'm a sinker myself. In fact, whenever I go swimming, I often think about an old blog post you did about sinkers and floaters. You're funny. You're witty. You're real and perfectly awesome in every way. So very UN-skunkish. :)
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